Dutch Fluency 
The difference between 'Het spijt me' and 'Sorry' in Dutch
When you're learning Dutch, you often hear two words for sorry: 'sorry' and 'het spijt me'. But what exactly is the difference? And when do you use which? In this guide, we explain it with clear examples.
Both expressions mean you regret something, but they differ in formality and usage. 'Sorry' is informal and short, while 'het spijt me' is more formal and elaborate. Read on to learn when to choose which.
When do you use 'sorry'?
'Sorry' is the most common way to apologize in Dutch. It's informal and suitable for everyday situations, like when you accidentally bump into someone or arrive late. You can also use it when you interrupt someone or make a small mistake.
Note: 'sorry' is a loanword from English, but it's pronounced exactly the same in Dutch. It's shorter and less heavy than 'het spijt me'.
Example sentences with 'sorry'
- Sorry, I'm late. The train was delayed.
- Sorry, can I just get past?
- Sorry, I misunderstood. Did you mean that?
- Sorry for the inconvenience. Here's your coffee.
When do you use 'het spijt me'?
'Het spijt me' is more formal and expresses more sincere regret. You use it in more serious situations, like when you've hurt someone or made a big mistake. It sounds more serious and personal.
You can also combine 'het spijt me' with an explanation, like 'Het spijt me dat ik je niet heb geholpen.' It's a full sentence, while 'sorry' often stands alone.
Example sentences with 'het spijt me'
- I'm sorry, I shouldn't have gotten so angry.
- I'm sorry I forgot your birthday.
- I'm very sorry, I didn't know it was that important.
- I'm sorry, but I can't come tomorrow. Can we cancel?
Common mistakes and tips
- Don't use 'sorry' in formal letters or emails; choose 'het spijt me' or 'excuses' instead.
- Don't say 'ik ben sorry' - that's not correct Dutch. Just say 'sorry' or 'het spijt me'.
- You can repeat 'sorry' for emphasis: 'Sorry, sorry, it wasn't my intention.' With 'het spijt me', add 'heel erg'.
How to practice this in Dutch
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Frequently asked questions
Can I use 'sorry' and 'het spijt me' interchangeably?
Yes, in informal situations you can use both, but 'het spijt me' sounds more serious. For a small mistake, 'sorry' is better; for a big mistake or if you've really hurt someone, choose 'het spijt me'.
What is the difference in pronunciation?
'Sorry' is pronounced as 'sorrie' (stress on the first syllable). 'Het spijt me' is pronounced as 'het speit me' with the 'ij' as in 'tijd'.
Do I always have to use 'het spijt me' with 'dat'?
No, you can also say: 'Het spijt me voor de vertraging' or 'Het spijt me van gisteren'. But with 'dat' you make a full subordinate clause: 'Het spijt me dat ik te laat was'.
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